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One of the deep mysteries of the origin of life is the almost indecent haste with which it arose on Earth.
Quote from "If the Universe Is Teeming with Aliens ... WHERE IS EVERYBODY?"
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A Philosophy of Software Design

All programming requires is a creative mind and the ability to organize your thoughts. If you can visualize a system, you can probably implement it in a computer program.

Philosophy of Software Design asserts complexity to be the biggest obstacle in software development and talks about managing complexity at a higher level. It is similar to books like "Code Complete" or "Clean Code" but it feels less tactical and more strategical in comparison. I thoroughly enjoyed this book, and it helped me increase my code quality.

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The Courage to be Disliked

No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma—but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.

"The Courage to be Disliked" is one of the best books I have read in a while. It challenges some of your core assumptions (like there is no trauma or that the interpersonal relationships are the root of all problems) and provides you with a framework to help you structure your life. It shows a lot of healthy ways to think about the way we approach interpersonal relationships.

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The Pragmatic Programmer

The greatest of all weaknesses is the fear of appearing weak.
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Mindset

Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?

Mindset is about two main kinds of Mindsets that people seem to have. A Fixed Mindset is where you believe that you are born with fixed abilities, and you either talented in something or not (hence flawed). How well that you fare with a skill is determined by your innate talents. You have limited or a fixed potential. Think of people saying that they are not good with math or art. They accept their current state of knowledge as their permanent state. In a Fixed Mindset, you shy away from challenges, and you identify with your success and failures. You are afraid of being vulnerable.


A Growth Mindset is a belief that we have an unknowable potential. It is the belief that our abilities are not fixed and can be cultivated through effort. We have the potential to improve and change almost every aspect of our nature. What kind of mindset you have affects a lot of aspects of your life. In the Growth mindset, you welcome challenges and effort. It is not about the outcome but the process. You do not identify with your success or failure.


Two ideas stood out to me in this book. First of all, the book talks about the benefits of having a Growth Mindset but acknowledges that you can’t have that mindset in every aspect of your life. There will be areas in your life where you would be content to accept things as they are. After all, you can’t focus on improving everything. It is a trade-off. And that is OK as long as what you accept doesn’t affect the quality of your life.


The second idea follows the first one. You can have a Growth Mindset in one area of your life and have a Fixed Mindset in other areas without even realizing it. The Fixed Mindset is some sort of protection that we develop to protect us from being vulnerable, but it also prevents us from growing. The book shows you how to identify the manifestation of a Fixed Mindset and tools to fight it off.

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The Power of Now

All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.

I have been trying to practice meditation for a while before reading Power of Now. This book made me understand and appreciate what meditation tries to achieve. The author tends to get a bit unscientific at times, but it is so well-written that I was not bothered by it. The basic premise is that you are not your mind. You have an awareness that observes your mind, and the strive should be to identify with the Awareness that observes and not with your mind that chatters. "The Power of Now" would be my recommended book for anyone interested in meditation.

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The Art of Loving

Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.

Art of Loving is a thorough exploration of what love is and isn't. The central premise is that love is not something that you miraculously fall into but something that needs to be practiced and cultivated. Love is a form of art, so it requires a certain dedication to itself. It not only explores romantic love but also other kinds of love such as brotherly love or motherly love. The book feels a bit too academic at times, but it was still a worthy exploration of a subject that is so dear to our lives.

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Clean Code

Clean code always looks like it was written by someone who cares.

"Clean Code" is an easy-to-read introduction to some elements that make code clean. What clean code means is discussed in the book with opinions from several prominent software engineers. The book offers a lot of tactical tips for writing clean code. It is fairly easy to implement your learnings in your day to day work. It has some sections that can be irrelevant or hard to read if you are not familiar with the Java language. Some advice might also not seem relevant anymore since there is tooling in place that takes care of various aspects of the development process. But this is still a great book to read to improve your code quality and make it cleaner.

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A Random Walk Down Wall Street

It is not hard to make money in the market. What is hard to avoid is the alluring temptation to throw your money away on short, get-rich-quick speculative binges. It is an obvious lesson, but one frequently ignored.
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Getting Things Done

If you don't pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.
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How to Win Friends and Influence People

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
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Thinking in Systems

There are no separate systems. The world is a continuum. Where to draw a boundary around a system depends on the purpose of the discussion.
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A Guide to the Good Life

The easiest way for us to gain happiness is to learn how to want the things we already have.
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Antifragile

Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better.
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Personal MBA

Every time your customers purchase from you, they’re deciding that they value what you have to offer more than they value anything else their money could buy at that moment.
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How to Make Money in Stocks: A Winning System in Good Times and Bad, Fourth Edition

The whole secret to winning big in the stock market is not to be right all the time, but to lose the least amount possible when you’re wrong.
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Deep Work

What we choose to focus on and what we choose to ignore—plays in defining the quality of our life.
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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.
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Man's Search for Meaning

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
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The Conquest of Happiness

One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one’s work is terribly important.
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Fooled by Randomness

A mistake is not something to be determined after the fact, but in light of the information available until that point.
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Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality

We see people and things not as they are, but as we are.
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The 5 Love Languages

Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction—the satisfaction of having genuinely.

According to this book, there are five different ways that people choose to express their affection towards each other (Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gift Receiving). You might not feel loved or cared for in a relationship if you and your partner have different languages of affection. This is equivalent to people speaking of the same things but not understanding each other due to a language barrier. Being aware of these differences can help you learn the love language of your partner. This book provides a useful tactical model for thinking about relationships, but I wouldn't call it an essential read.

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The Almanack of Naval Ravikant

If you’re not willing to do a wholesale, 24/7, 100 percent swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous.
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The Psychology of Money

Money’s greatest intrinsic value—and this can’t be overstated—is its ability to give you control over your time.
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The Effective Engineer

To be effective engineers, we need to be able to identify which activities produce more impact with smaller time investments. Not all work is created equal. Not all efforts, however well-intentioned, translate into impact.
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The Bitcoin Standard: The Decentralized Alternative to Central Banking

History has shown that governments will inevitably succumb to the temptation of inflating the money supply.
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Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life

Girard discovered that we come to desire many things not through biological drives or pure reason, nor as a decree of our illusory and sovereign self, but through imitation.
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Principles for Dealing with the Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and Fail

No system of government, no economic system, no currency, and no empire lasts forever, yet almost everyone is surprised and ruined when they fail.
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The Bitcoin Standard

History has shown that governments will inevitably succumb to the temptation of inflating the money supply.
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The Order of Time

Because everything that begins must end. What causes us to suffer is not in the past or the future: it is here, now, in our memory, in our expectations. We long for timelessness, we endure the passing of time: we suffer time. Time is suffering.
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10% Happier

There’s no point in being unhappy about things you can’t change, and no point being unhappy about things you can.

10% Happier is the story of how the journalist Dan Harris got acquainted with meditation as an outsider and a skeptic. This book can be a good starting point if you are curious about the practice of meditation but feel distanced by the mysticism that surrounds it. He explains how he got into meditation in a very accessible and relatable manner. It is not a life-changing book by any means but can be a light and entertaining read to get your feet wet with the subject.

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If the Universe Is Teeming with Aliens ... WHERE IS EVERYBODY?

One of the deep mysteries of the origin of life is the almost indecent haste with which it arose on Earth.

This is a great book about the possibility of alien life in the universe. It is incredibly imaginative, educative, and entertaining to read. It first explains what the Fermi Paradox is and then offers 50 possible solutions to the paradox. Every solution has something to teach you on subjects like biology, astrophysics, or probability theory. This is a book that is teeming with knowledge, imagination, and inspiration. At the end of the book, the author offers a convincing solution to the Fermi Paradox.

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Exhalation

Every decision you make contributes to your character and shapes the kind of person you are.

Exhalation is a compilation of sci-fi short stories from Ted Chiang. Don't let the length of his stories to discourage you. There is so much emotion, imagination, and intelligence packed in each of his stories. I could read a full-length book or watch a movie based on the stories that he skillfully constructs. There are few stories in this book that likely won't appeal to you at all. However, his better stories are beyond amazing and make it worth all the effort. I had so many favorites in this book, but "Anxiety is Dizziness of Freedom" might be my favorite short story of all time. It constructs a world where the many-worlds interpretation of quantum physics is real, and there is a device available that allows us to communicate with different branches from the time of the split. It is such a great story that is so rich in detail, emotions, and imagination.

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The Compound Effect

Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.
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Hell Yeah or No

A bad goal makes you say, “I want to do that some day.” A great goal makes you take action immediately.
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The Dip

Quit or be exceptional. Average is for losers.
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What If? 2

Removing Japan would also have a big effect on ocean currents.
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The Mom Test

It boils down to this: you aren’t allowed to tell them what their problem is, and in return, they aren’t allowed to tell you what to build. They own the problem, you own the solution.
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Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives

There are three deaths. The first is when the body ceases to function. The second is when the body is consigned to the grave. The third is that moment, sometime in the future, when your name is spoken for the last time.
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Recursion

Life with a cheat code isn't life. Our existence isn't something to be engineered or optimized for the avoidance of pain. That's what it is to be human - the beauty and the pain, each meaningless without the other.
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Dark Matter

No one tells you it's all about to change, to be taken away. There's no proximity alert, no indication that you're standing on the precipice. And maybe that's what makes tragedy so tragic. Not just what happens, but 
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Project Hail Mary

We’re as smart as evolution made us. So we’re the minimum intelligence needed to ensure we can dominate our planets.
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The Psychology of Money: Timeless lessons on wealth, greed, and happiness

Money’s greatest intrinsic value—and this can’t be overstated—is its ability to give you control over your time.
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Sum: Forty Tales from the Afterlives

There are three deaths. The first is when the body ceases to function. The second is when the body is consigned to the grave. The third is that moment, sometime in the future, when your name is spoken for the last time
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Ringworld

Humans," said the puppeteer, "should not be allowed to run loose. You will surely harm yourselves.
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Altered Carbon

The human eye is a wonderful device. With a little effort, it can fail to see even the most glaring injustice.
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The Dark Tower

The greatest mystery the universe offers is not life but size.
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Lord of the Flies

Maybe there is a beast… maybe it's only us.
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The Alchemist

And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
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The Picture of Dorian Gray

Because you have the most marvelous youth, and youth is the only thing worth having.
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Art of Doing Science and Engineering: Learning to Learn

In science if you know what you are doing you should not be doing it. In engineering if you do not know what you are doing you should not be doing it.
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Foundation

Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent.
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Lord of Light

His followers called him Mahasamatman and said he was a god. He preferred to drop the Maha- and the -atman, however, and called himself Sam. He never claimed to be a god, but then he never claimed not to be a god.
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Dune

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
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The Psychopath Test

I wondered if sometimes the difference between a psychopath in Broadmoor and a psychopath on Wall Street was the luck of being born into a stable, rich family.
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Predictably Irrational

People are willing to work free, and they are willing to work for a reasonable wage; but offer them just a small payment and they will walk away.
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It

It was easier to be brave when you were someone else.
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If It's Raining in Brazil, Buy Starbucks

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Fight Club

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.
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Coding for Visual Learners

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Principles

If you’re not failing, you’re not pushing your limits, and if you’re not pushing your limits, you’re not maximizing your potential.
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The Neatest Little Guide to Stock Market Investing: 2013 Edition

Be fearful when others are greedy, and be greedy when others are fearful.
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The Almanack of Naval Ravikant

Happiness is the state when nothing is missing. When nothing is missing, your mind shuts down and stops running into the past or future to regret something or to plan something.
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Super Thinking

High-stakes testing culture—be it for school examinations, job interviews, or professional licensing—creates perverse incentives to “teach to the test,” or worse, cheat.
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Naked Statistics: Stripping the Dread from the Data

So it is with statistics; no amount of fancy analysis can make up for fundamentally flawed data. Hence the expression “garbage in, garbage out.
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Nine Algorithms that Changed the Future

Beauty is the first test: there is no permanent place in the world for ugly mathematics.
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Accidental Genius

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Outliers

Once a musician has enough ability to get into a top music school, the thing that distinguishes one performer from another is how hard he or she works. That's it. And what's more, the people at the very top don't work just harder or even much harder than everyone else. They work much, much harder.
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Naked Economics

Why did the chicken cross the road? Because it maximized his utility.
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The Tipping Point

The tipping point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire.
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The Predictioneer's Game

The difference between doing a good job and doing a lousy job is driven by how many people a leader has to keep happy.
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The Design of Everyday Things

Good design is actually a lot harder to notice than poor design, in part because good designs fit our needs so well that the design is invisible.
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The Black Swan

We are quick to forget that just being alive is an extraordinary piece of good luck, a remote event, a chance occurrence of monstrous proportions.
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The Next 100 Years

The computer focuses ruthlessly on things that can be represented in numbers. In so doing, it seduces people into thinking that other aspects of knowledge are either unreal or unimportant. The computer treats reason as an instrument for achieving things, not for contemplating things. It narrows dramatically what we know and intended by reason.
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Moonwalking with Einstein

It is forgetting, not remembering, that is the essence of what makes us human. To make sense of the world, we must filter it. "To think," Borges writes, "is to forget".
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Thinking Fast and Slow

If you care about being thought credible and intelligent, do not use complex language where simpler language will do.
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Siddhartha

Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else ... Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it
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Quiet

Everyone shines, given the right lighting.
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23 Things They Don't Tell You About Capitalism

The free market doesn't exist. Every market has some rules and boundaries that restrict the freedom of choice. A market looks free only because we so unconditionally accept its underlying restrictions that we fail to see them. How 'free' a market is cannot be objectively defined. It is a political definition.
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Influence

Often we don’t realize that our attitude toward something has been influenced by the number of times we have been exposed to it in the past.
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Confessions of an Economic Hitman

The choices we make within the boundaries of the twists of fate determines who we are.
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Predictive Analytics

An economist is an expert who will know tomorrow why the things he predicted yesterday didn’t happen. —Earl Wilson
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Hackers & Painters

No art, however minor, demands less than total dedication if you want to excel in it.
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The Checklist Manifesto

One essential characteristic of modern life is that we all depend on systems—on assemblages of people or technologies or both—and among our most profound difficulties is making them work.
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Scrum

The Scrum Master, the person in charge of running the process, asks each team member three questions: 1. What did you do yesterday to help the team finish the Sprint? 2. What will you do today to help the team finish the Sprint? 3. What obstacles are getting in the team’s way? That’s it. That’s the whole meeting
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So You've Been Publicly Shamed

There is nothing I dislike more in the world than people who care more about ideology than they do about people.
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Superintelligence

The gap between a dumb and a clever person may appear large from an anthropocentric perspective, yet in a less parochial view the two have nearly indistinguishable minds.
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What Should We Be Worried About

Happy brains are all alike; every unhappy brain is unhappy in its own way.
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The Signal and the Noise

The signal is the truth. The noise is what distracts us from the truth.
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50 Berkshire Hathaway Letters to Shareholders 1965-2014

Sometimes your associates will say “Everybody else is doing it.” This rationale is almost always a bad one if it is the main justification for a business action. It is totally unacceptable when evaluating a moral decision. Whenever somebody offers that phrase as a rationale, in effect they are saying that they can’t come up with a good reason.
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In the Dust of This Planet

The question that runs through these disputatio is the following: What if “horror” has less to do with a fear of death, and more to do with the dread of life?
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What If?

But I’ve never seen the Icarus story as a lesson about the limitations of humans. I see it as a lesson about the limitations of wax as an adhesive.
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Dataclysm

Tonight, some thirty thousand couples will have their first date because of OkCupid. Roughly three thousand of them will end up together long-term. Two hundred of those will get married, and many of them, of course, will have kids. There are children alive and pouting today, grouchy little humans refusing to put their shoes on right now, who would never have existed but for the whims of our HTML.
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So Good They Can't Ignore You

No one owes you a great career, it argues; you need to earn it—and the process won’t be easy.
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The Power of Habit

Typically, people who exercise, start eating better and becoming more productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and say they feel less stressed. Exercise is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change
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The 4-Hour Workweek

Information is useless if it is not applied to something important or if you will forget it before you have a chance to apply it.
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The Industries of the Future

Computer language is just another language with its own grammar; it just happens to be much more logical than French.
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Homo Deus

People are usually afraid of change because they fear the unknown. But the single greatest constant of history is that everything changes.
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Superforecasting

For superforecasters, beliefs are hypotheses to be tested, not treasures to be guarded.
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Flashpoints

The Enlightenment sought to rid the world of myths, but the nation could not justify itself without them.
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The Hard Thing About Hard Things

“Life is struggle.” I believe that within that quote lies the most important lesson in entrepreneurship: Embrace the struggle.
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The Inevitable

We are morphing so fast that our ability to invent new things outpaces the rate we can civilize them.
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Tribe of Mentors

Never let a good crisis go to waste. It’s the universe challenging you to learn something new and rise to the next level of your potential.
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Tools of Titans

Losers have goals. Winners have systems.
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Sapiens

We did not domesticate wheat. It domesticated us.
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The Master Algorithm

God created not species but the algorithm for creating species.
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Creativity, Inc.

You are not your idea, and if you identify too closely with your ideas, you will take offense when they are challenged.
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The Three-Body Problem

To effectively contain a civilization’s development and disarm it across such a long span of time, there is only one way: kill its science.
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Stories of Your Life and Others

Despite knowing the journey and where it leads, I embrace it and welcome every moment.
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12 Rules for Life

You can only find out what you actually believe (rather than what you think you believe) by watching how you act. You simply don’t know what you believe, before that. You are too complex to understand yourself.
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Ancillary Justice

If you’re going to make a desperate, hopeless act of defiance you should make it a good one.
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Skin in the Game

The curse of modernity is that we are increasingly populated by a class of people who are better at explaining than understanding, or better at explaining than doing.
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God's Debris

The human mind is a delusion generator, not a window to truth.
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Mating in Captivity

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.
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21 Lessons for the 21st Century

In a world deluged by irrelevant information, clarity is power.
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The 4-Hour Body

The decent method you follow is better than the perfect method you quit.
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Atomic Habits

Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.
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Models

Rejection exists for a reason — it’s a means to keep people apart who are not good for each other.